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Table of contents<\/h2>\n\n- The First Step in Discovering Who You Really Are<\/a>\n
\n- \u2018Yourself\u2019 has a whole arsenal of excuses, justifications and stories designed to keep you exactly where you are.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n
- Understanding Cognitive Bias\u2019 Role<\/a><\/li>\n
- Here\u2019s the Good News: You\u2019re Not Stuck With the Brain You Have<\/a>\n
\n- Start with awareness.<\/a><\/li>\n
- Next, practice cognitive flexibility.<\/a><\/li>\n
- Then there\u2019s action.<\/a><\/li>\n
- And self-compassion.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n
- The Hardest Part of This Journey?<\/a>\n
\n- It is the ultimate step in personal growth: taking responsibility for your life.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n
The phrase \u201cget over yourself,\u201d usually directed at someone who is perceived as thinking too highly of themselves, has been around a long time. Ironically, the hardest journey in life can be what this jab points to: how to get over yourself so you can become the person you want to be.<\/p>\n
\u201cGetting over yourself\u201d isn\u2019t just a figure of speech. It\u2019s a neurological workout, requiring you to confront the stories your brain loves to tell and the patterns it clings to for comfort. Why? Because your brain is wired for survival, not transformation. And survival loves a predictable narrative.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m sure that at this point in your legal career and life, you\u2019ve climbed mountains of deadlines, swam through oceans of chaos, and battled dragons made of breakups, career upheaval, losses of family or friends, and possibly even awkward conversations on first dates. And yet, here you are, facing what might be the most challenging quest of all: getting over the stories you have been telling yourself about yourself all these years.<\/p>\n
The First Step in Discovering Who You Really Are<\/h2>\n
I imagine most of us would rather choose a more exciting quest, like hiking the Himalayas, going on a silent retreat in Bali, or skydiving into the unknown. If you\u2019re like me, for many years, you have intentionally chosen other adventures. But this journey of \u201cgetting over self\u201d<\/a> is where true transformation can happen.<\/p>\nWhy the reluctance? Because \u201cyourself\u201d is stubborn. Yourself can be the most unrelenting, deeply resistant creature of habit the world has ever known. And, of course, it\u2019s not just you, but all of us.<\/p>\n
\u2018Yourself\u2019 has a whole arsenal of excuses, justifications and stories designed to keep you exactly where you are.<\/h3>\n
Think about it. How many times have you convinced yourself you\u2019re too tired, too busy or just not ready to confront yourself? You can frame it as self-awareness, but sometimes it\u2019s just self-sabotage in a clever disguise.<\/p>\n
Do any of these statements sound familiar?<\/p>\n
You\u2019re not procrastinating<\/a> \u2014 you\u2019re \u201cwaiting for clarity.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n
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- \u2018Yourself\u2019 has a whole arsenal of excuses, justifications and stories designed to keep you exactly where you are.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n
- Understanding Cognitive Bias\u2019 Role<\/a><\/li>\n
- Here\u2019s the Good News: You\u2019re Not Stuck With the Brain You Have<\/a>\n
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- Start with awareness.<\/a><\/li>\n
- Next, practice cognitive flexibility.<\/a><\/li>\n
- Then there\u2019s action.<\/a><\/li>\n
- And self-compassion.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n
- The Hardest Part of This Journey?<\/a>\n
- \n
- It is the ultimate step in personal growth: taking responsibility for your life.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n
The phrase \u201cget over yourself,\u201d usually directed at someone who is perceived as thinking too highly of themselves, has been around a long time. Ironically, the hardest journey in life can be what this jab points to: how to get over yourself so you can become the person you want to be.<\/p>\n
\u201cGetting over yourself\u201d isn\u2019t just a figure of speech. It\u2019s a neurological workout, requiring you to confront the stories your brain loves to tell and the patterns it clings to for comfort. Why? Because your brain is wired for survival, not transformation. And survival loves a predictable narrative.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m sure that at this point in your legal career and life, you\u2019ve climbed mountains of deadlines, swam through oceans of chaos, and battled dragons made of breakups, career upheaval, losses of family or friends, and possibly even awkward conversations on first dates. And yet, here you are, facing what might be the most challenging quest of all: getting over the stories you have been telling yourself about yourself all these years.<\/p>\n
The First Step in Discovering Who You Really Are<\/h2>\n
I imagine most of us would rather choose a more exciting quest, like hiking the Himalayas, going on a silent retreat in Bali, or skydiving into the unknown. If you\u2019re like me, for many years, you have intentionally chosen other adventures. But this journey of \u201cgetting over self\u201d<\/a> is where true transformation can happen.<\/p>\n
Why the reluctance? Because \u201cyourself\u201d is stubborn. Yourself can be the most unrelenting, deeply resistant creature of habit the world has ever known. And, of course, it\u2019s not just you, but all of us.<\/p>\n
\u2018Yourself\u2019 has a whole arsenal of excuses, justifications and stories designed to keep you exactly where you are.<\/h3>\n
Think about it. How many times have you convinced yourself you\u2019re too tired, too busy or just not ready to confront yourself? You can frame it as self-awareness, but sometimes it\u2019s just self-sabotage in a clever disguise.<\/p>\n
Do any of these statements sound familiar?<\/p>\n
You\u2019re not procrastinating<\/a> \u2014 you\u2019re \u201cwaiting for clarity.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n
- Next, practice cognitive flexibility.<\/a><\/li>\n
- Understanding Cognitive Bias\u2019 Role<\/a><\/li>\n