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Ed. note<\/u>: This is the latest installment in a series of posts on motherhood in the legal profession, in partnership with our friends at\u00a0<\/em>MothersEsquire<\/em><\/a>. Welcome Sonya L. Sigler back to our pages. Click <\/em>here<\/em><\/a> if you\u2019d like to donate to MothersEsquire.<\/em><\/p>\n

In the first four articles of this series, we explored how noticing your energy, shifting your mindset, aligning your choices, and building intentional daily practices create a strong foundation for self-care. Now, we turn to the ultimate act of self-care: owning your time.<\/p>\n

Time is your most precious, non-renewable resource. Protecting it isn\u2019t optional\u2014it\u2019s essential. Without boundaries around your time, even the best self-care intentions collapse under the weight of other people\u2019s expectations, endless client demands, or your own internal pressure to do more.<\/p>\n

Time is of the Essence<\/strong><\/p>\n

Over the last few years, after losing several close friends and family members, I\u2019ve come to appreciate just how fragile and finite time really is. None of us know how long we have.<\/p>\n

That realization changed everything for me. I made a conscious decision to live life \u201cfull tilt\u201d\u2014leaving nothing on the field, embracing opportunities, and designing my days as intentionally as possible, instead of living reactively.<\/p>\n

Owning my time became a non-negotiable act of self-care.<\/p>\n

Rethinking Time: Fluid, Not Fixed<\/strong><\/p>\n

Early in my legal career, I didn\u2019t have much control over my time (read: almost none). Like many lawyers, I worked within rigid structures\u2014tracking time in six-minute increments, adhering to \u20189\u20135\u2019 type schedules (and beyond), and reserving weekends for catching up on sleep or preparing for Monday, or more likely, an \u2018urgent\u2014has to be done now\u2019 project. Time wasn\u2019t mine to manage; it was accounted for, billed, and dictated by client needs and expectations.<\/p>\n

In-house life offered a little more breathing room, but even then, the business prized constant availability and visible productivity. The idea of self-care\u2014if it existed at all\u2014fit into whatever minute gaps were left over.<\/p>\n

Over time, I realized I didn\u2019t have to live by someone else\u2019s clock.<\/p>\n

When my boys were young, I reorganized my work around what mattered most. I worked early mornings and then again after their bedtime. I aligned my time around their sports, school events, and everyday family life. Now, as international client needs and time zone differences dictate, I may work early morning on the weekends when the house is quiet (apparently, I am the only morning person in my household).\u00a0<\/p>\n

This fluid approach to time allows me to live more fully\u2014both personally and professionally. It isn\u2019t about working less\u2014it\u2019s about working differently, with more intention.<\/p>\n

Time isn\u2019t just something to track or bill. It\u2019s a tool you can design around your real priorities\u2014once you give yourself permission to do so.<\/p>\n

Quiet Time is Productive Time<\/strong><\/p>\n

One of the smartest boundaries I set was building quiet, restorative time into my days. It doesn\u2019t have to be long\u2014sometimes it\u2019s fifteen minutes to journal, walk, or simply sit and reflect.<\/p>\n

In a profession that prizes constant output, it\u2019s easy to undervalue stillness. But quiet time isn\u2019t wasted time. It\u2019s where strategic thinking happens. It\u2019s where creativity refuels. It\u2019s where your mind resets from the relentless demands of emails, meetings, deadlines, and client needs.<\/p>\n

Scheduling quiet time, and treating it as non-negotiable, helped me work more effectively. It allowed me to act with clarity instead of reacting from overwhelm.<\/p>\n

Integrated Living and Travel<\/strong><\/p>\n

Another boundary I redefined was how I approached work travel. Instead of isolating myself in hotels, I stayed with friends and family whenever possible. I combined business trips with personal connection\u2014sharing meals, catching up, or simply being present.<\/p>\n

I also built in small moments for myself\u2014an art exhibit, a new coffee shop, a scenic drive\u2014even if it meant adding an hour or two to the trip.<\/p>\n

This practice transformed travel from a drain into a source of renewal. It reminded me that work and life aren\u2019t two separate tracks. They are deeply intertwined, and thoughtful boundaries help integrate them in ways that fuel, rather than deplete, your energy.<\/p>\n

Setting Your Own Boundaries with Time<\/strong><\/p>\n

Owning your time starts with setting clear, protective boundaries\u2014with work, with others, and with yourself.\u00a0<\/p>\n

When my calendar becomes too crowded, I start blocking dedicated \u201cdeep work\u201d time for drafting or writing. I treat those blocks just like client meetings\u2014protected, scheduled, and non-negotiable. The result? Faster turnaround on substantive work and far less mental exhaustion.<\/p>\n

When I transitioned into consulting, one of the boundaries I set was around client response times. Instead of feeling pressured to respond immediately to every email or call, I set the expectation upfront: \u201cI aim to return calls within 24 hours.\u201d Clear, respectful communication gave me space to prioritize without feeling guilty\u2014and it helped my clients trust that they would always get a thoughtful, timely response rather than a rushed one.<\/p>\n

Minimizing task-switching and scheduling the type of work that matches your own energy profile can keep you focused and productive.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Here are a few strategies that have worked for me and others I work with:<\/p>\n