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Your goal should be, at some point, to be happy for your spouse \u2013 but hey, I get it\u2026 We\u2019re not there yet, not even close. Forgiveness will be a step that is necessary before you can be happy for your spouse. It is super important to remember that forgiveness is not about any sort of reconciliation or excusing someone\u2019s foolish decisions. Forgiveness is 100% about finding peace for YOU and your healing in this process. While we are still allowed to feel anger (and all those other feelings listed above!), forgiveness helps us learn to maintain control of those emotions, and therefore continue to make good, sound decisions. Acknowledging our feelings is paramount, if you feel \u201canger\u201d and \u201cjealousy\u201d then say to yourself, \u201cIt is completely normal to feel angry and jealous right now.\u201d Continuing to practice acknowledgement in order to take power away from those particular emotions.<\/p>\n
The \u201cReplacement.\u201d<\/strong><\/h2>\nNo matter how serious your spouse is about his or her new partner, it\u2019s important to remember that this new partner is NOT your replacement. The most important takeaway is that you shouldn\u2019t compare yourself to the new partner. Some common pitfalls would be questioning what the partner has that you don\u2019t or even trying to find more information about the partner on social media. Let\u2019s take this time to focus on yourself, your unique and amazing qualities, and your continued roadmap to happiness.<\/p>\n
Remembering Why. <\/strong><\/h2>\nTake a deep breath here, and REMEMBER. The decision to divorce was not some half-baked idea you had one day. You made this decision because you and your spouse had reached a point where there was no way to save the marriage, and you were no longer a fit for each other. You are on the path to finally living your life and ensuring the happiness you had gone without for some time. When negative feelings start to fill your brain, it\u2019s so important to remember the reasons you have chosen to move forward. You thoughtfully considered the many reasons to divorce \u2013 what were they again? If your anxiety comes from a situation where your spouse has unexpectedly jumped into the dating world, this is just another reason that validates your reasons for moving forward with a divorce.<\/p>\n
Last, put yourself FIRST.<\/strong><\/h2>\nIt is so important to continue to do things, each and every day, that bring you joy. Prioritizing self-care helps to reduce stress and manage your emotions, especially in this situation. As you make time to celebrate even the smallest milestones, do something wonderful for yourself every day. If you need some ideas: take a long walk on a nature trail or beach, try a new restaurant, attend a concert, get a massage, join a support group, surround yourself with people who make you feel amazing. Say, \u201cNO\u201d when you\u2019re feeling overwhelmed, and say, \u201cYES, WHY NOT?!\u201d a little, too!<\/p>\n
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Take a deep breath here, and REMEMBER. The decision to divorce was not some half-baked idea you had one day. You made this decision because you and your spouse had reached a point where there was no way to save the marriage, and you were no longer a fit for each other. You are on the path to finally living your life and ensuring the happiness you had gone without for some time. When negative feelings start to fill your brain, it\u2019s so important to remember the reasons you have chosen to move forward. You thoughtfully considered the many reasons to divorce \u2013 what were they again? If your anxiety comes from a situation where your spouse has unexpectedly jumped into the dating world, this is just another reason that validates your reasons for moving forward with a divorce.<\/p>\n
Last, put yourself FIRST.<\/strong><\/h2>\nIt is so important to continue to do things, each and every day, that bring you joy. Prioritizing self-care helps to reduce stress and manage your emotions, especially in this situation. As you make time to celebrate even the smallest milestones, do something wonderful for yourself every day. If you need some ideas: take a long walk on a nature trail or beach, try a new restaurant, attend a concert, get a massage, join a support group, surround yourself with people who make you feel amazing. Say, \u201cNO\u201d when you\u2019re feeling overwhelmed, and say, \u201cYES, WHY NOT?!\u201d a little, too!<\/p>\n
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